Zack says, “Lately I’ve been having a lot of anxiety about not feeling like a grownup and not feeling like I’ve done enough things to set my life up properly and it’s time I do something.” What signals do you use to identify someone as “grown up”?

While children are young, we encourage them to play, and even worry if they don’t. But at some point we expect that they will stop spending their days playing and take on more “productive” tasks. Keire recalls arguing with his dad, who wanted him to work instead of skateboard; they disagreed about when childhood pursuits should end and adulthood, with its more serious tasks, should begin. What do you see as the role of play in distinguishing between childhood and adulthood? Should play be allowed or even encouraged in adulthood?

Keire says, “I feel like if I stay here, I’m just gonna get stuck here. But moving out has just always been scary. I don’t want to move out and then, by the time rent comes around, I don’t have the money. Because then I look stupid and irresponsible.” What things are/were scary to you about becoming an adult? How did/could you overcome the fear?

Zack sees adulthood as a demand to conform: “I was kind of raised to, you know, do what you want to do and then somewhere along the line where you just flip a switch to become like conservative American. All of a sudden there was all these rules and expectations. They were pushing [me] into this mold of someone they thought was a good person.” Is conformity part of your vision of adulthood?

Keire has trouble getting used to seeing Zack as a dad. How does becoming a parent change the way that others see you?

Zack says, “It’s interesting how much having a kid will force you to grow up. So like I can’t get home from work and drink a 12-pack like I normally do ’cause like what if I have to get up and feed the kid or, you know, what if something happens…?” In what ways did having Elliot lead Zack to “grow up”? In what ways did having a child without being completely ready to be a parent make it harder for Zack to transition into responsible adulthood?

In several scenes we see the friends drinking and/or smoking weed. In what ways is this activity seen as a passage into adulthood? What signs indicate when is it just part of a fun social dynamic and when it drifts into destructive substance abuse? Have you ever witnessed someone cross the line from fun to abuse (like Zack did)? Did you know how to help? What did you do?

Keire observers, “The older I get, the more I think about it. I feel like there's a whole part of me that really loves my family.” As you have aged, how has your relationship with your family changed? What do you think accounts for the changes?