Keire and the others say “I just felt like I didn’t fit in with my family.” Have you ever felt that way? Did you find a constructive way to let your family know how you felt? What did you think of the ways that Bing, Keire, and Zack dealt with similar feelings?

Zack says, “Skateboarding is more of a family than my family. We formed a family together to look out for each other because no one else is looking out for us.” How do you view the purpose of a family? Are there people you consider family who are not legally or genetically related to you? What role does this “chosen family” play in your life?

Why is it important to feel like you belong somewhere? How does a sense of belonging make people stronger or more resilient? Are there places in your community where someone could go if they felt like they didn’t belong?

Nina recalls that, “We didn't, like, hug or anything in my family, so, when I first moved out from me and Zack's apartment, my aunt would give me a hug every night before I went to bed. And it was so weird to me at first, I'd be like, "Ugh, like, you're touching me! Like, don't please!" And then after a while, I was like, "Okay, I'm going to bed!" [arms out] You know, where's my hug? Now I know what I want my family to be like someday.” How does your family handle physical affection? How does it make you feel? What changed for Nina between not wanting to be touched and wanting that connection? What kinds of conversations do you have and do you wish you could have about the way that your family does or doesn't respect physical boundaries? Is this the same or different for the children in your family (are they allowed to make decisions about when and how they are hugged, kissed, tickled, etc)?